Who knows you better (and worse) than a sister? She witnessed your unfortunate hairstyle choices (and probably has photos). She knows you stuffed your bra with socks and stuffed clothes under your bed when mom wasn’t looking. She probably knows a few more things, both good and bad, from long ago to present.
My sister and I send one another daily affirming messages to counteract some insidious input from our early years. Sometimes simple; sometimes silly: the messages encourage, elevate and remind us of both who we are and what we can do.
“You have gotten better with age while still retaining the cuteness of your younger self ; )”
“You have a flair for decorating and your photography is beautiful artwork.”
“You have a great wit and are fun to be with.”
“You have a kindness that shows so vividly in how you can see the good part of someone that no one else can see.”
“You are able to connect in a very real way with people who are important in your life. Time spent with you is a guaranteed boost to any day for me.”
“You brighten up the cloudiest day with your smile, humor and wit…”
“I can still see the sweet little girl inside of the capable woman you’ve become and that is soooo cool!”
“I always know that if I need someone to listen to me or to help me or if I have a big problem – I always know that you are there… always willing to listen, always willing to help and always willing to love… it’s very comforting to know that you’re my sister and my friend.”
“You are very good at making other people feel comfortable.”
“You have a fabulous singing and speaking voice… They should have an over-40 American Idol -you’d win! ; )”
Don’t have a sister? Ask a friend. Or even ask yourself. There’s nothing wrong with emailing yourself a positive thought or quote. Star or flag them in your inbox and open as needed. Know that they are true and begin growing with joy and abandon.
“Be good to yourself, today. You are one of a (very cool) kind! ”